a lost passion

The other day I decided to do my hair, take two shots, have a dance party of one, and take some photos. I pulled everything out of the corner, swept it clean, blasted some Rolling Stones, and asked Conner to be my hype man for a bit.

A lot of these photos I actually took with a self-timer. I’m not sure why it came over me so suddenly. I think this is an itch that just hasn’t been scratched in awhile. I love fashion photography, or just portrait photography in general, but haven’t done a shoot in so long. And no models on hand with this lockdown.

Maybe I’m just bored as hell.

So I became my own model and had a great time doing it.

It was a creative release. Getting to see my vision come to life on both sides of the camera was exciting.

But beyond the creativity, it was just kind of fun to throw myself I photoshoot. This is why:

I have become way more comfortable in my skin in the last six months than in my entire life. I have ways to go. But I’m proud of how far I’ve come.

I have felt societal pressures starting to slip.

I have been putting my mental health and well-being at the forefront of my daily routine.

I have been living for my own opinion of myself, not others.

I have been giving less f-cks to things that aren’t as important to me. I still give some f-cks. But not as many.

I’m still young – but I feel like I’m falling into place as I should. My mind feels more aligned with my heart than it ever has. Mushy stuff.

I’ve always wanted balance and to me that meant peace and not bothering anyone. But that’s not balance. That’s incredibly tilted. Balance is feeling my whole spectrum of feelings.

Currently, I’m not doing that. But I feel like I’ve woken up and am ready to live vividly. Like in these photos.

So I came. I posed. I laughed. & it was hella fun.

I suggest you do the same and throw yourself a friggen photo shoot.

That’s all. xx

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italy: chapter 3

This one’s dedicated to the pizza.

Naples was sandwiched between two days of stressful traveling and I just didn’t find the space to want to write about it. But Naples holds one of the most special memories of our whole honeymoon and I will always remember it for that.

It’s because of our AirBnb. It’s this little penthouse studio apartment in a nice area of the city. The surrounding buildings were beautiful…exactly what you think of when you think of European architecture. The room itself was tiny, about the size of the bed, but the terrace…was HUGE. And private. And perfect. There were lots of lounging areas but my favorite part was the ping pong table. Little did we know, it would be our entertainment for the night.

But first, Conner needed food and I specifically needed pizza.

male walking down a pretty street on airbnb in naples italy

A quick google search led us to a small restaurant literally across the street. We were desperate. We walked in, there were business men with suits taking up the entire place. I was wearing leggings with a hoodie wrapped around my waist, lookin all sweaty, and I don’t remember what Conner was wearing. But I’m willing to put money on the fact that he had some sort of baseball hat on.

Just smile and nod…

We were seated within direct view of where the pizza was made – which made me very happy. Our waiter was nice and did his best to communicate with us.

[Edit: this is something I want to improve upon before our next trip. I want to really make the effort to learn languages and cultural customs. I hate imposing our American-ness onto foreigners in their own countries. I don’t want to travel ignorantly.] 

Who knew.

That this little place hid the best pizza in the whole entire world. 

We had plans to visit the actual “best pizza in the world” the next day…but honestly I didn’t need to. The secret was hidden somewhere in the tomatoes and olive oil…it was so juicy and to me tasted like pizza was supposed to taste. Pizza back home will never be the same for me again.

I had a little moment where the waiter led me into the prestige dessert room and I got to pick one out for Conner and I to share. I don’t remember what I chose but it was probably delicious and I miss it anyways. Then we did our usual: stopped at a market on the way back, stocked up with wine/champagne, orange juice, fruit, Oreos, and breadsticks.

Then we made mimosas and a drinking game out of ping pong, while listening to John Mayer’s Where the Light Is Live album (our all-time fav) and teaching each other magic card tricks & playing go-fish. As we watched the sunset and city fall asleep around us.

Such a perfect night.

The next day we ventured out to the infamous Pizzeria da Michele – known as the best pizza in the entire world. The place Liz Gilbert made famous: “…given that the best pizza in Italy is from Naples, and the best pizza in the world is from Italy, [that] means that this pizzeria must offer…I’m almost too superstitious to say it…the best pizza in the world?” So predictably, there were hundreds of people in line waiting for it. 

This place was nuts. There was a separate line for takeouts, equally as long. There was a pizza bouncer. Sunshine. Lots of people sipping their beers while waiting to be called in. The occasional scooter or tiny-car honked its way through the crowd. Very cool, very suave. I mean, we obviously had to partake in the beer sipping, but it didn’t end up passing the time like we hoped.

When our number was finally called (two hours later…no further comment) we shared a table with another couple because I guess that’s just what you do there. If you’ve ever wanted to see the real life definition of limited-seating…go here. The restaurant was filled with people sitting with strangers from all over the world. Such a cool thing to witness and be apart of. That’s a reason why I want to travel. To find what brings people joy from all over the world. Pizza did that.

julia roberts from the movie eat pray love eating pizza at pizzeria da michele in naples italy

I felt especially lucky because I got to sit in the same seat Julia Roberts did in the movie version of EPL. Right in front of the kitchen. Boom. Luckiest gal in the joint.

So you get two options: Margarita or Marinera. Conner and I got a full margherita pie. Each.

I wish I took pictures but honestly we were so hungry and delirious that I only regained consciousness once the pizza was gone. But I can still remember the taste. I’ve decided that the secret to Italian pizza is the TOMATOES. They are so juicy. Reminder: I don’t like tomatoes. But combined in perfect balance with the olive oil & lightness of the dough & the fresh cheese, I forgot. I fell in love with tomatoes thanks to this pizza. I won’t ever find one like that around here, ever, and I’ll probably be subtly shading any pizza I come across in the meantime.

I won’t recap any of the travelling, because we definitely messed up a lot. But if you are planning a trip to Europe or any other place where you’re not familiar with public transit systems, get the app Moovit. Just do it. It will save you time and all of your sanity. We only discovered this towards the end of our trip but still was extremely helpful.

So that was Naples. I loved this leg of the trip. First time around, not as nice. But I’d like to come back and give it the fair shot it deserves.

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ridiculously delicious and easy-to-make smoothies

I must confess. I have been a bit of smoothie addict lately. It wasn’t on purpose – it was actually out of pure laziness. I found myself with negative 12 minutes in the mornings to make a meal but didn’t want to sacrifice the nutrition I knew was missing in my diet. And as much as I try to cook new recipes and broaden my food knowledge to fill that void, it doesn’t come as second nature to me. That’s how smoothies crept into my life. I know the array of nutritional benefits of certain ingredients, but working them into a meal? I don’t know. Saying f–k it and blending them all together? Yes. That’s on my level.

different kinds of smoothies green peach berry strawberry rolled oats

Before I knew it, I was making smoothies every morning, relying on them for my daily dose of greens, and buying bananas every three days. (Tip: buy in bulk, and chop/freeze the ones that might go bad before you use them. Sounds like common sense but I just caught on. Also adds some frothiness to those future smoothies. Or a healthy dessert if you’re that type.) Most of these are simple, common ingredient smoothies that you can whip up in five minutes or less. I didn’t include measurements because who measures smoothies? But everything’s listed from what I use the most of to least – besides liquids which just depends on how thick of a smoothie you want.

different kinds of smoothies green peach berry strawberry rolled oats
deconstructed mango banana peanut butter cherry chia seeds hemp hearts

And I’m going to be transparent with you: balancing the logistics of six different smoothies that consist of frozen foods, while fighting off hungry pets and trying the get “the shot” over and over again was a true challenge. I burned a lot of calories frantically running around the apartment.

I’ve compiled six of my recent go-to smoothies: Strawberry Apple Spinach, Peanut Butter Berry, Mango Banana Carrot, Cinnamon Maple Oat, Cherry Strawberry Banana, and Honey Mango Spinach. Yes – there are TWO green smoothies on this list. Both are delicious.

different kinds of smoothies green spinach strawberry
deconstructed banana hemp hearts

smoothie #1

strawberry apple spinach

– lots of spinach

– frozen banana

– a couple frozen strawberries (like 3-4)

– hemp hearts

– apple juice

– orange juice

I’ve found that 1 part orange juice and 2 parts apple juice hits the spot. Sometimes I’ll use a little more of both to make it like a juice rather than a smoothie. Tip: Definitely shove the spinach down into the blender. It takes up a lot of room before you blend but after you do, it’ll take up half as much. I always end up adding more after the initial blend (partially for color).

different kinds of smoothies deconstructed mixed berries peanut butter chia seeds oat soy milk

smoothie #2

peanut butter berry

– frozen mixed berries (I use blackberries, raspberries, blueberries)

– banana

– peanut butter

– chia seeds

– your choice of milk

This is probably the one I make the most often. I can’t over how delicious the peanut butter-berry combo is and I love that it fills me up more so than a typical fruit smoothie would. I had a pb-acai smoothie a few years ago somewhere and this is how I recreated it at home. SO GOOD. One of my all-time favorites.

different kinds of smoothies deconstructed carrots banana mango flax seeds

smoothie #3

mango banana

– shredded carrots

– frozen mango

– frozen banana

– golden flaxseeds

– orange juice

So many carrots and you wouldn’t have a clue. The mango sweetens the tartness of them and the banana adds a reliable, creamy base to fuse it all together. We add flaxseeds of course, to keep ourselves regular.

When Conner tried this he said “I feel spontaneously healthier.” He may have been pumping my tires but I call that a win.

different kinds of smoothies deconstructed banana rolled oats peanut butter maple syrup honey cinnamon vanilla extract blueberries

smoothie #4

cinnamon maple oat

– frozen banana

– rolled oats

– peanut butter

– maple syrup or honey (I actually used both whoops)

– cinnamon (your preference)

– dash of vanilla extract

Cozy up. This one has more ingredients than the rest but it’s WORTH IT. I’ll even make this for dessert sometimes or a base for a fruit bowl. Adding blueberries in the mix would be delicious too – blueberry pie vibes.

different kinds of smoothies deconstructed banana strawberry cherry oat soy almond milk

smoothie #5

cherry strawberry banana

– banana

– frozen strawberries

– frozen cherries

– chia seeds

– your choice of milk

When done right, this one tastes just like strawberry ice cream. My God. I don’t know if it’s nostalgia or the little 6 year old in me that put this smoothie on the list but it’s delish. It’s mostly just a strawberry-banana smoothie but the cherries add some richness and sweetness that take it to the next level.

different kinds of smoothies deconstructed banana honey mango spinach hemp hearts orange juice apple

smoothie #6

honey mango spinach

– (lots of) spinach

– frozen mango

– frozen banana

– honey

– hemp hearts

– orange juice

I loooove this smoothie. The flavor is so unexpected from the vibrant green – something about the way the honey pairs with the mango and banana. Again, use lots of spinach. Your daily dose is covered in one glass.

And voila! I had a lot of fun putting this together and taste testing as I went along. This blog is truly an amazing creative outlet for me – a delicious one in some cases.

I’ve never been a fan of writing a lot in recipes to fill space, so I’ll just leave it at that. You don’t care anyways right? Let me know what you try and if you have any favs xx

different kinds of smoothies green peach berry strawberry rolled oats
smoothie ingredients deconstructed strawberrt berry cherry spinach mango rolled oats

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italy: chapter 2

The following is a revised copy of a journal that I kept on our honeymoon 10.1.2019-10.16.2019

october 11. 2019

According to Liz Gilbert’s Italian friend, every city has a word. Positano’s is beauty. Everywhere, every corner: filled with it. I am stunned speechless this morning. We took the bus (for free – oops!) from Positano to Sorrento. This place has every flower, shrub, and tree imaginable from seemingly all reaches of the world. Cacti, stone pines, ferns, lush greenery like cherry laurel, palms, endless blooming bushes and vines…These huge, majestic trees that look (at least) over a century old, amongst thriving fruit trees clustered along the cliff sides. The city has grown around them and I have never seen man and earth blend together so seamlessly and beautifully. 

screenshot of a bus ride from positano to sorrento italy

I was in such shock on this bus ride that I couldn’t take any pictures but I did take a screenshot of where we were along the trip so that I could make sure to come back.

Every street is picturesque and charming. Every building has terraces all around and every terrace is draped in more greenery and beauty. In between buildings there are these surprising little sanctuaries of wildlife- actually wait. Let me paint a better picture. If I were to take a photo of one of these areas and crop the buildings out, you would believe it was taken in a wild forest or jungle.

You’d be confused and in shock when I told you I took it in the middle of Sorrento.

This beautiful city. 

(Most of these pics are still from Positano where we spent the most time)

If I could design a dream place it would be here. Wouldn’t change a thing. Except I’d learn Italian. I just can’t get over it. All the shops here have such charm complimenting all the cobblestone streets, the orange trees growing in the middle of the sidewalk. That bus ride was one of my favorite parts of this whole trip. And it was free. Take that, $300 taxi ride.

So now we are sitting on a bench in Sorrento killing some time before we leave for Naples. After my last entry, we beach bummed our bums off. My legs actually got some color! Conservatively. An Italian tan at its bare minimum. I got to live out my dream and eat lemon sorbet…out of a lemon. Would have bought 10 more. 5 for now, 5 for the road. Conner, being the voice of reason, said no. 

Also I didn’t know pistachios where such a thing in Positano. They were everywhere. I went in on the pistachio cannolis (from Colina’s bakery – also has some amazing pizza and that lemon sorbet in the lemon).

One of the beach days, a drum duo treated us to genuinely relaxing beats over some soothing, vacation-esque electric music. If you could imagine that. Really just a nice cherry on top to the day. 

Remember that restaurant we ate at the first night? Maybe I didn’t tell you. [Edit: I definitely didn’t tell you] Conner had one of his favorite burgers there and was dying to go back. It was also the place where I audibly moaned eating a salad probably for the first time in my life so I wasn’t going to argue. It’s the kind of place though where there are like 8 tables on the side of the road and if they’re all taken, you’re sh-t out of luck.

Our first walk-by, no dice.

So we strolled down to Positano’s waterfront and explored in all it’s nighttime glory. It’s very different from its daytime glory because A: There are way less people around and B: there are way less people around. It shocked me. And there was nowhere else we wanted to eat. Were we being picky? It was just kind of sad and dark down there.

After a while we made our way back up the hill. If there were still no seats, we’d probably end up back in our room eating leftover breadsticks and fruit. Sad. But that’s the kind of toll a $300 taxi ride can inflict.

The stars aligned for us though and a table opened up just as we were walking back. I mean, they were grabbing the bill, but same thing? Queue Conner’s excitement, me trying tomatoes for the billionth time in my life but this time actually liking them, two rounds of bread that we smuggled half of into my bag, and two free limoncello shots. Was a great night. 

lemon slushy ingredients from valenti positano on a terrace in the amalfi coast of italy

Valenti Posistano. If you, the reader, are reading this you should probably pack up and just go now. Or place an order if you’re a big lemon fan and want to taste some of the best lemon products in the world. I didn’t know I was such a big lemon fan myself until visiting this place. It is the sweetest small family business, and we felt so welcomed, which didn’t happen often as tourists. Their brand label is one of their little kid’s drawings……I mean. CUTE. They make delicious house-made oils, jams, liqueurs, limoncello, lemon slushies…thy even gave us some ingredients to take back to our hotel – on the house. Needless to say, we found our favorite little market in Positano, unlike the one up the street who tried swindling us. Oh yea. This lady.

When I asked if she had a credit card machine:

“Yes, 20 euro minimum”. 

So we grabbed what we thought was 20 euro worth and brought it up to the counter. She was busy so her son (? we guess) helped us out. It ended up being nowhere near 20 euros but he literally did not give a sh-t. She was all flustered and embarrassed but YAY US.

happy male wearing a hat holding beer in a grocery market in positano on the amalfi coast of italy

In our intentions to reach her “20 euro minimum” we bought tortellini to make the next day which we actually did (surprisingly), finished with a delicious olive oil, paired with wine, and enjoyed on our terrace, per ussch. 

Positano has brought out a different side in us that I really love, and the place has been so good to us. Easy. Vermont is beautiful and I feel eternally grateful for growing up in such a perfect state, but the Amalfi coast is beautiful – and speaks directly to my soul. I feel so at home here, maybe reunited with a past life of mine. Hopefully. I want to be that cool.

Anyways, I’m probably rambling at this point and despite my efforts, no words, not even from the best writers, could do this place justice. We’re off to Naples. I’ll be back with news of the best pizza in the world. xx

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the best brussels sprouts

(my official recipe)

sauté in olive oil until turning dark brown on edge 

when pan dries up a little, add a glob of olive butter

let cook

add salt and pepper, lemon juice (more than you’d think, like a good amount, and then generously all over the pan again)

realize you forgot the garlic and mince quickly, throw in pan (on medium to high heat)

hurriedly open a bottle of white wine and pour 1/2 cup in

continue cooking until golden brown, and wine *stains* the sprouts, stirring every once in awhile but let’s be honest you’re cooking three other things so they could sit


i want to be known for these brussels sprouts 

“accident sprouts”

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italy: chapter 1

The following is a revised copy of a journal that I kept on our honeymoon 10.1.2019-10.16.2019

october 9. 2019

 Well hello again. It’s been awhile since I’ve written to you. A lot has transpired since – it’s our third and second to last full day in Positano. We’ve had great pizza but I am still on the hunt for some amazing pasta…hopefully I’ll have some good news soon.

Honestly. I think I had to take a break to recover from the worst travel day I’ve ever experienced: getting from Santorini to Positano. I will not document it here, because I really don’t mind forgetting it, but I would like to note that I had an actual breakdown over the phone with an Italian driver – like, falling to my knees and crying into my hands at a train station kind of breakdown. Then once we were finally (finally!) in said taxi driver’s car (the right one this time…we narrowly escaped a kidnapping) “In My Head” by Jason Derulo starting playing. 

I mean.

Come on.

I started hysterically laughing. Literally. I don’t know how Conner stayed sane. The bizarreness, displacement, and weirdness of such a nostalgic song playing all the way over here in this random dude’s taxi, in this random city…as an end to this horrific day. I may have even cried honestly because I found it so funny. Somehow it just washed me clean of my stress. I was tired, but not too tired to appreciate a good moment. Then I passed out and here I am three days later (just woke up), barely ready to talk about it. Well sort of.

young woman looking out towards the view from la sirenuse in positano italy

Positano is one of the most beautiful places. Heaven on Earth. We have this terrace off our hotel room with the most gorgeous views and a cute little cafe table set. So, our favorite past time these days has been to sit here and soak it all in. We’ll buy ourselves a bottle of cheap (but delicious) wine or beer, and drink it together out here while reading and watching the sun go up and down. There is this magic light that casts over the city as the skyline melts into a pastel spectrum of color. Don’t worry, I’m making fun of myself for you – but that’s the only way I can describe it. And then all the lights start to come alive and twinkle from all the little buildings in the cliffside. You just start to realize what a truly spectacular, tiny place this is. We could hear the waves crashing down on the beach below in darkness. The folks in the building next door would occasionally come out and soak it all in too. Wish I could say I picked up some Italian from them. 

Anyways. It’s truly magical here.

I finally finished Eat Pray Love. I say “finally” because I started reading it months ago in hopes that it would get me into the right mindset for this trip. We all know that didn’t happen, and couldn’t have happened because I am a notorious book-starter-not-finisher kind of gal. But I’m very proud of myself because I read over half that book over the course of just this last week! And honestly I am happy I read it on this trip instead of at home. It has truly changed my life. And reading it here, I was far enough removed from my daily stresses that I could absorb it more fully. Be truly present with it. 

Near the end of the book, Liz talks about this week of solitude she gave herself on a remote island in Indonesia, including one memorable meditation in particular: she sat on the beach in solitude, dug into the deepest places of her mind and pulled out each moment of sadness, anger, and (the hardest one) shame. One by one, she listened to, then forgave them, letting each into her heart with the kindest self-compassion I have ever heard or read about. 

She was able to do this two whole years before her time at the Ashram in India, which just put into perspective the weight of her entire spiritual journey. I would love to really give myself the time and space to dive into my own, but honestly I’m scared to. It’s difficult and terrifying, facing all those deep parts of ourselves and finding true peace with them. Nevertheless I have learned practices from Elizabeth Gilbert, Ketut Liyer, Swamiji, Richard from Texas, the plumber from New Zealand, all these different and very real people who were connected across the world by one common search; love. I should probably reread this book. A few times. Because I don’t want to forget a single lesson, they mean so much to me.

I have not written about a book since high school. And even then, I don’t think I actually “read” the book, if you know what I mean. So let’s say I haven’t written about a book I’ve really read since middle school. I am in such a beautiful place right now and I should be talking more about that, but this book got me good. It’s like this big, quiet thing I have to get off my chest. 

There. It’s done. Let’s talk about Positano. 

a view of positano italy
a young male eating pizza on a terrace looking out the view of positano italy

I already feel so used to certain European things – the tiny cars winding around these tiny streets. Well, one street. Maybe two. They somehow dodge all the pedestrians walking on the – let me stress this again – tiny streets. We have sidewalks back home? And two lanes? Drivers here have to honk before going around a corner to warn oncoming traffic. There’s a turn every, like 30 seconds. The anxiety.

But it’s all normal to me now. Ha.

You know how to tell when you’ve got it good? When your hotel sits on one of the few roads in Positano, one where so many tourists stop their cars to get out and take pictures of the view. Our view. We get to look at this all day, baby.

I desperately want to get out and just roam around this place. Time is not a restriction for us and it’s just in my nature to do that…I can feel it in my bones. But Conner may have broken his foot. And you can’t argue with that. Remember in Santorini when he accidentally broke Ion’s table? The whole thing landed on the top of his foot and it’s all swollen and looks weird now. So I’m not sure how much walking we can do. It will just have to be my excuse to come here again some day.

Note: He broke a wine glass here in Positano too. So watch out, Naples.

The weather here is perfect. Like if I could dream up the perfect weather, it’s Positano in mid-October weather. Although I heard some Positano regulars talking about how it was unusually warm for this time of year and I feel like maybe the stars aligned for the short visit we’re here.

a beach picnic in the amalfi coast of italy including fresh strawberries, plums, and potato chips with dolce vita sandals in the background

We spent yesterday sleeping in and then wandered down to the beach after finding this amazing, picturesque little market with delicious fruit. And a working credit card machine! I had saved a picture of this place years ago along with other bucket list things so it shocked me when we practically ran into it by accident. Funny how life works out that way. 

We stocked up on plums, tangerines, apples, and potato chips. I was telling Conner: I have eaten more potato chips in the last week than I have in the past year. Maybe even two. He agreed.

Then we swam in the Mediterranean. 

A short creative excerpt:

I gave into the current and just let myself float. The waves wanted to pull me in, and I let them, closing my eyes and dragging my hands through the broken earth below. The sound shimmied through my body and danced in my ears. It felt like millions of small champagne bubbles bursting under my soft touch and each would send a ripple all throughout my body, exiting through my breath. Like I was the instrument and it was the music.

End of excerpt. I had to. That’s exactly what it felt like.

And the water itself…wow. I only believed that this color existed in photo-enhanced versions of tropical islands but nope. Here it is. And I am existing in it.

Yesterday we Facetimed our kids, which, honestly I was worried about. I thought it would make me even more homesick, but hearing what they’ve been up to and that they’re being taken good care of just had the opposite effect on me. Thank you Thomas for staying with them. I still miss them so much though. I want to bury my face in Remi.

I am going to go wake up my hubby now. We have things to see and lemon sorbet to eat. I feel like we’re not experiencing Positano to our fullest potential yet so that is my mission over these next few days. Minus the broken foot. 

Ciao xx

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my skincare ritual (and other thoughts)

basket skincare products high quality

Buckle up. This is a long one, folks. I’ve been a bit of a skincare geek for awhile now. I guess it all began something like 8 years ago from reading a magazine – probably Seventeen – and how some celebrity girl crush I had shared with us her Golden Rule of skincare: Never, ever, go to bed with makeup on. Ever since – the makeup has come off at night. No matter what.

It haunts me.

Even at maximum tiredness, I always force myself to pull out a make up wipe and scrub my face clean. Sure, I probably definitely don’t get everything but it’s not as damaging as if I did nothing. I am weirdly, religiously strict with myself about it.

I agree that it’s the Golden Rule for anyone who wants to get serious about their skincare. When your skin’s clean, you can really listen to it and start to learn what it needs.

Skip to: AM Routine, Cleansing, Masking, Serums, Moisturizing

Another Golden Rule I stick to: cruelty-free skincare and makeup. Rule of thumb: if it’s sold in China (where animal testing is literally required by law), it’s not cruelty-free. And because China is a multi-billion dollar cosmetics industry, a lot of companies choose to overlook the immorality of animal testing for the sake of getting rich.

Animal testing isn’t accurate or even necessary nowadays. Technologies exist that can examine the safety and effectiveness of a product without torturing helpless, intelligent animals. I do and don’t encourage you to look up articles and videos…the reality of it is eye-opening and so cruel. Truly horrifying.

My vanity will never be more important than that.

Cruelty-free products are becoming more and more widely available and as they do, the excuse not to use them grows smaller and smaller. We have so much influence in the quick, seemingly small decisions we make throughout our lives, without even thinking about it. Every purchase, in this case, is a reassurance to big companies like Neutrogena, Garnier, MAC, (could go on) that animal testing is okay. As long as they have buyers, they have no reason to change their current practices. Why would they? It’s working for them.

Imagine if we all suddenly became more conscious of it. Imagine if the whole world boycotted Loreal until they stopped animal testing. They’d be forced to comply if they wanted to stay as powerful as they are. We truly have all the power. Spread the news!

I will be the first to say that I am no skincare expert. What works for me may not work for you. Our skin is all so different and a big chunk if it just comes down to genetics. So in noo way am I qualified to advise you on that. I think the important piece of it is to decide what kind of cosmetics consumer you want to be and develop a ritual for yourself.

My household may not be as crazy as other’s – I totally get that. No kids here. But even trying to work in 2-3 minutes to wash your face with some quality skincare that’s doing good things for you – it’ll make a difference, even if it seems small. It gives you space to breathe and focus on yourself after a long day worrying about countless other things. It’s a time to reset and reconnect with that person in the mirror. A time to ground yourself. It’s a small collection of moments that have the potential to change your mindset in a big way.

Just for reference – my skin would be described as “normal” on the spectrum of oily to dry. It’s neither in excess. It can become dry if I don’t pay attention to it, but overall it’s pretty tame. My skin is sensitive though so I try to minimize fragrance. I’ve lucked out in the genetics department as far as clear skin goes – besides the inevitable hormonal break outs. My main goal when choosing skincare products is to keep it clear, promote hydration & evenness, and reduce texture. Everyone has their own skincare journey so I’ve also included lots of insight from my experiences working with all types of clients – tips that can help anyone no matter what their end goal is.


Everything’s listed in the order I use it in.


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morning routine

It always starts with sunscreen.

I use the serum from Supergoop because it’s the very first step and therefore impossible to forget. It’s light and I can still moisturize after. Whichever one you pick, make sure there’s SPF and PA protection. The latter protects you from UVA rays – the ones that cause premature aging, wrinkles, sun damage, and skin cancer. Most people think their skin avoids damage unless they burn (UVB rays). That ain’t the case.

UVA = will cause Aging

UVB = will cause Burning

About 95% of the sun’s rays that reach you are UVA.

So if you’re burning, imagine what’s going on unseen. Not to mention all the blue light we’re exposed to daily. EEK. Please protect your skin!

Another one of my longtime fav’s has been Josie Maran’s Argan Daily Tinted Moisturizer, with a little added boost of SPF. I love this stuff because it gives my skin a long lasting glow and the perfect amount of coverage to even things out. I’ll use this or rotate in either Farmacy’s Honey Drop or Tatcha’s Water Cream – both in my PM routine. Deets to follow below.

My makeup routine is pretty minimalistic these days, and I love it like that.

BareMinerals owns the most real estate here with Complexion Rescue (tinted gel cream), bareSkin serum concealer, and a pressed bronzer (that I use on my eyes as well). I swear by all these products – but especially the concealer. I’ve had the opportunity to try all kinds of formulas throughout my experience working in cosmetics but this, by far, is the most hydrating, full coverage, and long lasting one I’ve come across. It was my go-to for clients of all skin types and ages. 10/10.

In Brow Land I use Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Wiz & Clear Brow Gel. The wiz gets things defined with a precise pencil and spoolie while the clear gel keeps everything in place.

I’ve also been hooked on lash extensions lately – it’s dangerous. They make my life so eassyyyy. But if I were using a mascara right now it’d be Too Faced’s Better Than Sex. Same deal with the concealer. Tried ’em all. This one’s the best. A competitor would be Lash Paint from Tarte.

I recently started up my love affair with Milk’s Face Gloss again because it’s the perfect formula to give dew but not the sparkle. It looks more natural if you’re going for that no-makeup-makeup look. Tip: don’t apply until you’ve dried/styled your hair. It’s sticky. I go in with a dampened Beauty Blender to set it. [Edit: upon trying to hyperlink, I’ve realized this product was discontinued. I’m going to try this one next]

About that body cream? I don’t put it on every day. That’s unrealistic though I wish. It’s really once a week if I’m lucky. But for the sake of the blog, let’s say I actually have the time and regularly include this in my skincare routine. I love anything Jen Atkin and swear by her hair products (Ouai) so I figured I’d give this one a try. In the past I’ve loved Josie Maran’s Whipped Argan Body Butter – it’s SO good. You can’t go wrong there and a tub lasts forever.

the wind down.

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the double cleanse

The double cleanse has forever changed my skin -as I recently re-learned when I brought it back into my life just about a month ago. When I worked in cosmetics, I was really consistent with it – it was kind of my job – and wowww did I notice results. It’s not always the most convenient, I know. It’s a whole other product, a whole other step.

But think about it this way: when you cleanse your face at night, if you wear makeup, you’re mostly just wiping off the layers of product that sat on your skin all day. You can’t truly get all the oil, dirt, and bacteria out in one swoop. Your skin has pores and bumps and cracks where all sorts of things hide! Toxins lurking. It’s especially less productive if you use a treatment cleanser – you don’t want to be wasting all those good ingredients on makeup that gets washed down the drain anyways!

Instead, use a true “makeup remover” (oil, balm, or a simple cleanser) first and save that treatment product for the next step when your face is really clean – it’ll be 10x* as effective and you’ll see actual results with it.

*not at all scientific

So! Products. I’ve been using Farmacy’s Green Clean for a while now and I swear by it. And somehow still look forward to using it years later. Out of all the makeup removers I’ve come across, this one gets the most makeup off (by practically dissolving it on dry skin) with the least amount of effort. It’s gentle and effective, a tub lasts a long time and doesn’t totally break the bank. I love this stuff.

Next is the micellar water (I use Trish McEvoy but any micellar water works, it’s really all the same) – especially if my skin is really feeling stuffed up. I just use it on a cotton round and it acts like magnet water that attracts and sucks up any left over makeup/dirt, etc. I also use it on my eyes because I’m a freak with lash extensions.

The double to my double cleanse – Korres Greek Yoghurt Cleanser. This is also the most gentle thing in the world and so moisturizing. It’s smell is subtle but soothing and feels so cooling on my skin. I’ll follow up with it after using Green Clean to drag any leftovers out of my pores, then add the smallest bit of water to foam it all up. Like a bath for my skin. Ugh. So good.

(In desperate times, I skip all these steps and reach for my Ogee face wipes. They’re not stripping and still leave my skin feeling moisturized.)

A couple times a week I exfoliate which is also a Game. Changer. If a daily cleanse is like the vacuum cleaner, exfoliating is like the professional carpet cleaner.

I prefer to use a powder from Josie Maran that can mix with a variety of things: water, argan oil, or a cleanser. I love it because I can control the amount of grit I want based on how my skin is feeling. Most of the time, I’ll pair it with a cleanser so that while I’m digging deep and (gently) cleaning out my pores, the ingredients from the cleanser can swoop in and be their most effective.

Other products pictured that I rotate in –

Tatcha – The Deep Cleanse & Tata Harper – Regenerating Cleanser. Both are wonderful.

You don’t have to use these products. The important thing for me was just integrating these steps into my routine. I’ve experimented with lots of products over the years until I found the right fits for my skin, and I’ll still be trying new things. Use whatever is convenient and effective for you.

Phew. That was a long section. You still with me?

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the cherries on top

So many masks out there. So many options. These are two of my favorites. I don’t think masking is a crucial step in a skincare routine, but an added bonus. They just give us a little boost to whatever else is going on and provide us with a moment to breathe and relax.

Farmacy – Honey Potion. Conner’s personal fav. He sports this more often than I do sometimes. (Which makes me a very proud wife)

This mask has all sorts of good things wrapped into one, thanks to its major contributor: honey. It’s soothing, antioxidant-rich, and a natural humectant, so it leaves my skin nourished and ~glowing~. I use this probably two times a week as a little detox. Free radicals are everywhere so I’ll take a little boost of antioxidants wherever I can. I like to use it after I exfoliate and get my skin all nice ‘n clean.

I also treat myself to Farmacy’s coconut brightening/hydrating sheet masks every once in awhile. A good sheet mask is like a shot of water delivered straight to your skin – the “sheet” holds the product and moisture in which allows it to absorb instead of just evaporating off your skin. Whichever mask you choose, try to find one without cetyl alcohol. It’s an incredibly common ingredient that acts as a preservative to prolong shelf life. It does nothing for your skin but cause inflammation, irritation, and dryness. It’s usually one of the first few ingredients listed.

Next up: Tata Harper – Resurfacing Mask. This is a goodie. Lots of AHAs & BHAs to exfoliate the skin and leave you feeling like you just got a facial. If you ever see those terms and get confused: don’t. They’re just fancy words for exfoliation – one works above the skin (AHAs) and the other works below (BHAs). AHAs include things like fruit enzymes to work at “polishing” your skin and BHAs include common treatment ingredients like sulfur, willow bark extract, and salicylic acid to dig in and pull out all the gross sh-t. It’s good to have a mix of both.

I love Tata Harper products. Not just because they’re made in Vermont, but because of the company’s commitment to putting ethics first in skincare. No toxins, no fillers, no parabens, no sulfates, no GMOs, no artificials, etc., etc. NONE of the bad stuff. It’s the most pure and potent line of skincare. In my opinion. Justifiably, it comes with a heftier price tag so I sprinkle in products here and there. The cleansers and eye creams are amazing too…absolutely worth every penny.

So anyways. You really can’t screw up with either of these masks. They won’t burn, and if you forget to take them off it’s completely safe and fine. Sleep in em.

quality skincare sunday riley juno oil cbd serum

the muscle

Here’s one of the things I’ve learned about serums: half of them are amazing products that work and the other half are well-marketed bottles of “water”.

Serums are where to funnel most of your skincare budget. Quality makes all the difference here.

If you want to see targeted results in your skincare routine, you’ll need a serum. It’s the most potent product in your lineup and the one that can go deepest into your skin. It’s your treatment step!

Example: If you’re trying to fight breakouts, having a clarifying cleanser in your routine unfortunately won’t be enough to clear your skin. It can’t have a high enough potency trying to do two things at once, and later just gets washed off the face! Instead of trying to spread out a treatment across multiple products, it’s so much more effective to place that responsibility in a product dedicated to just that. Then you can work in other beneficial ingredients in other areas of your routine. Your skin needs balance to function properly.

Sunday Riley’s Juno Oil – I loooove this stuff. I’ve used some Sunday Riley products over the years and have loved every single one. Their clay cleanser was my go-to for awhile. They have an incredible Vitamin C line, a magical face-clarifying night oil, and their famed latic acid treatment: Good Genes. I might actually need to save up and snag that one next…

Literally every product I’ve tried from the brand has Shown. Up.

So anyways, this oil. I just started using it here and there a couple weeks ago but I can already tell it’s gonna stick with me. I don’t know all the deets or have a lot of experience with it yet. And I am kind of using it in place of a real serum (serum’s aren’t usually oils) but it’s so packed-full of superfoods that it still delivers the results I want.

Example A: I put a considerable layer on around 1pm today, went for an hour walk outside in the cold, frigid air along the waterfront, sat around etc. It is now 8:30pm and my face is still “damp”. In the best way though. I don’t really know how to describe it. You know how with some creams/products meant to hydrate your skin, it just feels dry an hour later? It’s been seven hours with this guy. My skin doesn’t feel sticky, just soft and thoroughly hydrated.

[Edit: I’ve been working on this piece for a few weeks and wrote different parts of it at different times. But y’all. I officially fell in love with this stuff today. I haven’t seen my skin look like this since my skincare collection was massive (and free). It’s revived…the pores are gone. Complexion is even. My skin just looks so…healthy. Just took about a week of consistent use to really kick in for me. Extremely recommend this]

I’ve also been using a CBD serum occasionally. I’ve heard that CBD is supposed to have lots of skincare benefits – I don’t know if it’s a marketing scheme or not with it being a big trend right now. The difference I’ve seen so far is that it’s helpedl the overall evenness of my skin. Reduces redness – which makes sense! I usually use it when my skin is needing a little less hydration or when I’m using a heavier moisturizer along with it.

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the comforters

I love facial oils. They’re so powerful and get straight to the point. No extra stuff. But I can’t use them on my face every night for the same reason – I’ll turn into a 24/7 grease ball. That’s why I like to keep a small assortment of moisturizers on deck. My skin has moods.

Josie Maran’s 100% Pure Argan Oil will be in my routine forever. FOR-EVER. It’s sourced so well and heals and nourishes…there’s no fragrance, it’s not suffocatingly heavy, it’s anti-aging, it’s perfect. I usually just use facial oils at night since they stay shiny on the skin for awhile, but this particular one has a sister version with a matte finish. It’s perfect for blending into foundation for a hydrated look – always my go-to.

Also I love Josie Maran’s story. This post is already too long so I’ll let ya google it.

Next place in the lineup is Farmacy’s Honey Drop moisturizer. My most frequent. I feel like it does everything for my skin. Revisiting honey here – a powerhouse ingredient. Helps keep my skin clear, hydrated, and even-toned. It’s a soother while also keeping things supple and glowy. My skin feels its best after a night of this stuff.

I use their Honey Savior salve on my hands too – I have some sort of eczema thing going on – and it’s the only thing that works. No more itching. No more dryness. It’s helping with my scars. And I tried everything – even the various Josie Maran argan oil products I have around. Nothing works like this. Seriously. If I could only use one main ingredient on my skin the rest of my life, it’s honey.

If I could only have two moisturizers, I’d be happy with these guys. But I’ve been known to switch things up here and there, hence the Tatcha Water Cream pictured. I’m just rotating it in every once in awhile but it’s great stuff and perfect when I want something light on the skin. It absorbs fast so it works well for a daytime cream under makeup, too.


Skin works the best when it’s hydrated. Healthy turnover happens. The skin heals, it regenerates, and it breathes. All the products you’re investing in are suddenly more effective. It’s kind of like the offensive line in football – it’s necessary so that your star players (serums, masks, cleansers) can shine through and make big plays.

Hydrated skin = productive skin

Anyways, if I were to recommend two areas our your routine to bring under the microscope first, I’d say the cleanser and moisturizer. They can really make or break your entire routine. Good stuff only.

I’ll spare you a long conclusion. You’ve made it this far! But generally that’s what’s happening on my face day to night. Please reach out and tell me if this helped you or you’ve learned something. I love this kind of stuff. Working with and talking to people about skincare is something I really miss.

If you couldn’t tell.


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feelings (p.1)

Not gonna lie, I have a major case of writer’s block. I prepped a lot of content/posts before I launched this thing, and since then have worked on several more. Excited for them. But I’m just not feeling it right now. And that’s okay. 

I told myself when I started this that I’m going to really stick to my values and not let the pressure of it push me around. I’ll post when I’m ready. I’ll be transparent. I’ll work on things when my body has had rest. I’ll stop when it’s no longer fun.

It’s hard to remember all that sometimes. Especially when I’m trying so hard to look inwards and create on my own. It’s difficult with the abundance of content creators nowadays. I know I just started this but it’s easy to compare myself to others and feel like what I’m doing isn’t enough. I should post more, I should stop recycling old photos and videos (even though they tell the very story that got me started on all of this). I should keep things happy and light to read. It’s hard to get rid of the feeling of not being enough. But

I am enough.

This is enough.

This is something that I love doing and creating.

That is enough.

I wish we could all be each other’s cheerleaders more often. Imagine that. If we just reached out, just for the purpose of telling another woman that they’re great at what they’re doing. Or that we admire their courage. Just because. Imagine how far that could go. I don’t think we’d be as scared to pursue so many things in life.

This is scary. Just gonna say it again. I’m sure I make up a lot of the pressure inside my head but it’s still too heavy to ignore. I’m staying committed to pushing through it though. Nothing extraordinary has ever happened inside a comfort zone. 

Keeping it real. Today is not one of my best days. And there shouldn’t be any reason to be ashamed or embarrassed about it. I’m showing up. For those who love me, for my future, and for myself. Push yourself where there’s give. Hug yourself when there’s not. That’s the best (and all) you can do.

xx kate

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santorini: chapter 2

The following is a revised copy of a journal that I kept on our honeymoon 10.1.2019-10.16.2019

october 4. 2019

Tomorrow is our last full day in Santorini. I’m sad about it. These days have felt so long but have simultaneously flown by so I’m trying to pause and soak up everything I can about this place. It seems like every morning we are wondering what to fill our days with but by the time we figure it out, the sun is already setting. Gah. This place is stunningly gorgeous. Let me reflect…

After my first entry I quickly got lost in sleep and passed out till noon. Room service woke us up by breaking into our apartment. We took that as our wake up call lol. I blame it on the jet lag!

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Around 2 we finally ventured out to go rent a car. We set our hearts out for the convertible mini cooper the night before, but all their mini coopers were gone. So we went with the Mazda RX5 instead – King of the 90’s, or so Conner says. We found some Greek tracks in the glovebox and blasted them as we drove away from our little Oia bubble and adventured into what existed on the rest of the island. 

First was Akrotiri at the very bottom, which boasts an impressive ancient ruin site. I felt desperate to understand some of the history behind this place but left feeling a little more clueless that I’d care to admit. We should’ve just joined a tour because although the site was incredible to take in, the best understanding I could get was from Conner’s offer that “this was where the first rave ever took place”. 

We later found a cool spot for wine tasting on the beach where we tried four white wines. I didn’t mind the first three (Conner and I are red wine folks) but the last – the dessert wine – was gross. I think I’d get kicked off this island if I said that out loud. 8 euros per person. 

Kamari beach…ahhh it has stolen my heart. In my humble opinion, it’s what Pacific Beach is to San Diego. It’s far enough away from the big touristy areas and where more of the locals seem to reside. There’s a tiny school yard right in the middle of town and this cute pedestrian street that runs parallel to the beach. Restaurants on either side, day beds to go with them. Gelato stands, fruit everywhere. Cats everywhere. It’s definitely still a little touristy but way less packed and way more laid back. We tried to sneak on a day bed and were welcomed to the beach by a huge, gorgeous white dog. WAIT – I forgot to tell you:

Loaf of bread

Two carrots

Water (tall)


Total: 3 euros


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The look on our faces – I mean we were trying to remain calm and avoid looking like we were getting away with theft. I simultaneously felt like we won the lottery and also wasted all our money up until that point.



Not mad.

It was cold on the beach so we just took some time to decompress and snack for a bit. There were men fishing right off the beach (impressive) while we sat and played with rocks. Each one was so different and I had never been more interested in geology than I was in those very moments. How did they all end up on the same beach?!

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The night ended with lots of wine and YouTube in our hot tub. Once our first bottle ran out, Conner volunteered to head out and grab us another, only to come back and surprise me with Pringles and chocolate too. Best. Husband. Ever.

This new wine was gross too – which I really hate to say because I’ve tried a variety of wines on this trip so far and have surprised myself with how many I’ve liked. I didn’t think I was a wine gal! But this wine was so bad we were committed to taking shots of it to get it down…so. Just imagine that I guess. And the hangover. I learned that I may not have liked it because it was soaked in Oak barrels vs…..the traditional? Barrels? Wine lovers reading this are hating me right now.

Our party was later crashed by a new cat, Garfunkle, who we thought would make the perfect duo to Simon, who we met in Kamari Beach. Oh Simon.

Garfunkle wandered right into our private little alcove and loves sour cream Pringles. Safe to say no street food will taste the same to him ever again.

It was a pretty perfect day – the worst part was hiccuping myself into (drunken) sleep. 

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sweet potato brunch tacos

recipe soundtrack: Rebelution

taco burrito ingredients sweet potato black beans onion salt garlic tortilla jalapeno lime

I wish I could say I came up with this delicious recipe, but I don’t want to lie to you. Conner and I started making these once or a twice a week on the reg, and they instantly flew to the top of my favorite-meals-ever list. They still deserve a spot on the blog.

We’ve been in a bit of a dinner funk lately, getting pretty lazy with our cooking. But this recipe’s effort-to-taste ratio is stellar. I consider myself intermediate in the kitchen? Like I could go on the cooking version of Nailed It and do a pretty decent job. But Gordon Ramsay might be disgusted with me. I’m easing myself into more complex meals but never tire of the simpler ones. So this checks all the boxes.

The great thing about having a husband that loves you is that you can dump all the prep work on him. He’ll do the chopping while I wait to swoop in and take over all the fun parts.

Definitely get a head start on the potatoes, they’ll take the longest, about 35 minutes. I’ll usually start the beans about 15 minutes into that while Conner whips up the avocado spread. He also does the tortillas. You’d think that’s the easiest part but I burn them every time.

I’ve never loved a taco or burrito more. The jalapeno and cilantro is balanced with the softness of the feta. And the creamy avocado. The sweet potato fills you up but doesn’t leave you feeling like you ate too much. Leftovers are easy to make. And because this is an easy recipe to split up, it makes for a fun at-home date night. Just add the wine.

That’s about it. This is a no-fail recipe that makes you feel like a champ. And it’s so healthy and easy. Takes about 40 minutes to make, start to finish. Hopefully you won’t get as much dog hair in yours but let me know if you give these a try! Seriously. Recipe is linked at the top.

Enjoy with your fav Netflix show. We’re enjoying a lot of stand-up right now.


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